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Management and execution

Just because you are good at executing a task, it doesn’t mean that you will be a good manager over a group of people completing that task. Executing and managing require different skill sets and even if you have the skills, you may not want to do or like to do some of the required tasks when in one position or the other.

Before making a switch from being in the field to going into management (or vice versa), you need to be honest with yourself if you understand the new position, if you want to take on those new roles/responsibilities, and if you’re capable of performing your role for the team.

First comes understanding. If your expectations of what the position entails don’t align with the reality, you are likely to be disappointed. Talk with those who have been in the position you are looking to move into to see if it is something you think you might like. Ask them detailed questions about what their day-to-day schedule looks like, what it takes to succeed at that position, and what is the best/worst part about what they do. You have to gain a better understanding of what is required of you in order to make the best possible decision to make the switch. If you’re making a major life change, you should try to do so with as many facts up front as you can.

After you talk with that person (or hopefully several people in the position you’re moving to), take time to consider if you will like those activities. Will you find them fulfilling? Will this new position provide a healthy challenge for you – one that is fun and exciting, but stresses you just enough to continue to grow? One of the most important questions that you can ask before accepting a new position is, “will I generally get fulfillment doing this everyday for the next X years of my life?” If the answer is yes (or mostly yes, as everyone has the occasional “bad day”), then move on to the third set of questions.

If you understand the job position and still want it, the last set of questions you must ask yourself revolves around “do you have what it takes to win at this position?” Keep in mind that winning is not only something that you have to define for yourself, but for the company as well. You may be happy with the work you’re doing, but is the company happy with your performance? Or they may be happy with your work, but you’re miserable. Both parties have to win for this to work in the long run. Can you prioritize the most important tasks for the day, week, month, or year and get them done on time (and on budget)? If you aren’t yet capable of performing to the standard that you and the company have defined, does your company provide training to get you there? If so, how much time/grace period will they allow for you to improve your performance to the required level? If you are mentally capable of performing the role, are your physically and emotionally capable of performing it? Can you physically complete any tasks the job requires? Are you able to handle the emotional highs and lows of the job? Do you let little things negatively affect you? If so, how can you build your resilience so you can have more good days and win at your job?

Lastly, it’s up to you to decide whether you fit best in the field or in management. If you are being offered the choice, you have to weigh the effects of not only a better paycheck, but also your happiness. Only you can choose what is right for you and your family. No matter what option you select, know that your job is important and that all great organizations need strong management and strong execution. Without both, the company is only as strong as its weakest link.

Going wide or going deep

I recently wrote about being a specialist instead of a generalist, and this post delves deeper into that thought. When I was listening to Dave Ramsey’s “The Legacy Journey,” he discussed how he and his wife, Sharon, decided to give to charity. There is no right or wrong way to give to others. I believe that and so does he. But he made a good point, saying if they had one million dollars to give, would their money be more effective giving one dollar to one million charities (essentially, “going wide”) or giving one million dollars to one charity (“going deep”)?

If you “go deep,” your impact is likely to be far greater/more meaningful than if you “go wide.” Again, this is not meant to make it sound like going wide is wrong, per say. In the example above, donating that much money (or any amount of money, time, and energy) is a very noble thing to do. It just depends on what you feel is best. If you have multiple charities that you’d like to give to, by all means, go for it. But if you want them to reach their goals faster, you may have to limit where your resources are going.

So how does this relate to the generalist or the specialist? Well, the generalist is essentially going wide. They may have a little bit of knowledge or experience in a lot of different areas. This is a good thing! It’s almost always a good thing to have more experience and to be well-rounded. You can often connect better with others because you have more to talk about. But if you need an expert or have a specific task that needs to be accomplished? Then the specialist is probably your best bet.

You may have a lot of knowledge in many different areas, but if you don’t have a deep understanding of how to build a rocket (or specific parts for a rocket), you probably won’t be much help to the engineering division of a company like SpaceX. This is why it’s not right or wrong to be a generalist or specialist, to go wide or to go far. It is all situation-dependent and up for you to decide what you want to be or do.

What to do (or not) in today’s “outrage culture”

There are a lot of hot button topics/issues at any moment in time, some legitimate and some not so much. Being in the United States, we have a remarkable freedom to say what we want. It’s a wonderful thing, but it doesn’t mean that we should abuse that freedom. We shouldn’t say mean or hurtful things as is so often done by the “tough people” on the internet. So with today’s blog post, I wanted to touch on two things I’ve been thinking about lately – 1) stop being so easily offended and 2) don’t apologize unless you really mean it.

First of all, we should always work to improve ourselves and one of the best ways to improve yourself is by improving your happiness. With that logic, removing happiness would be a way to make your life worse then, right? Well, one of the quickest ways to remove happiness from your life is to take offense to the everything around you. Today’s first action step is to not be so easily offended.

In today’s “outrage” and “cancel” culture, people seem to take offense at the most minor issues. If you feel you’ve been wronged, take a moment to think before reacting. Did the other person actually do something terrible to you? Was it done maliciously? Or was it a mistake? Do they even know that you feel this way?

Remember, you can’t control what other people do, you can only control your actions and reactions to them. If you live in America, chances are that you’re better off than the majority of the world and aren’t facing issues to the same extent as someone living in a hut in a third world country. Put your “problems” in perspective and stop being so easily offended.

The second thing that I think many of us should work on is to not be apologetic unless you really mean it. I’m not confrontational. I don’t like conflict, so I avoid it when I can. If you’re like me, you may find yourself apologizing to someone for offending them even if what you did isn’t bad in your eyes. Stop doing that. It’s inauthentic and won’t mean very much if you continue doing the same thing you just apologized for.

Think about why you’re saying sorry before you do next time. If someone is mad at you, don’t say sorry just to get back in their good graces if you don’t believe what you did was wrong. If you feel that what you did was right, you should either stand up for your actions (if it’s something worth “fighting” for) or let it go (if it’s something small). But don’t get defensive. If you are, is it because you are actually the one who offended now? They’re allowed to voice their displeasure and disagreement with you. That’s the whole freedom of speech thing that we talked about in paragraph one.

If you’re allowing yourself to become upset because someone else is offended by something you said or did, take a look in the mirror. Are you perpetuating the cycle of having thin skin? Don’t do exactly what you want others to stop doing. Don’t be offended by something that doesn’t really matter in e grand scheme of life.

To recap, don’t take the little things in life too seriously and try to be sensitive to how others feel. Yes, we have the right to a freedom of speech, but that doesn’t mean that you should try to provoke others. Be nice. Try to be the bigger person. If you change your mind about something you’ve said or done in the past, admit it and apologize to those you have legitimately wronged. And when others disagree with you, learn to let the little things go and instead choose to be happy.

Changing your mindset

Ask yourself, “what’s the worst that can happen?” Often, our decisions don’t boil down to life or death, so don’t make them out to be more than they are.

Default to saying, “why not?” Instead of being pessimistic and thinking, “why should I do X?” You should say, “why not?” If you default to yes and then look for a reason why you shouldn’t (primarily looking at health and safety), you open yourself up to the possibility of experiencing new things. But if you never try anything new, your life will become boring and stagnant.

Instead of saying, “I can’t” ask yourself “how can I?” Think outside of the box. If someone else has done something, you can too. But what will it take for you to get there? How can you achieve a specific goal?

Changing your mindset – being optimistic and believing in yourself – is the best path to unlocking your potential. There’s always bumps in the road. Things won’t go as planned. But as long as you know this going into your next endeavor, plan for the worst, and hope for the best, you’ll be alright. Just keep moving forward.

You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with…Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.” – Jim Rohn

Does your environment support your goals? Are you hanging out with success-minded people? Are they fair, open-minded, and a positive influence? Take a look at who you spend the most time with. Do their behaviors align with what you have in mind?

When trying to determine what path you and your friends/colleagues are on, you have to look at the big picture. Don’t only look at monetary successes. Money doesn’t make someone happy. It’s one part of the equation, but you also have to take into account family/social life, physical and mental health, etc. Are your friends on the same track as you or are they heading down a path you don’t want to go? If it’s the former, they may be further ahead or further behind you, but if you’re all working towards a common destination, you can all learn, grow, and get to your destination together. If it’s the latter, you should try to help them get back on track (if that’s what they want) or you may need to let that relationship go.

Lastly, don’t make this transactional. Life is about relationships. You should love hanging out with these people! If you don’t love talking with them and spending time with them, why are you doing it? Don’t abuse your relationships or try to “trade up” who you’re hanging out with just to get further ahead in life. Ideally, you will be hanging out with some people who are already where you want to be heading. They can almost serve as a mentor to you (but don’t call them that unless you want to freak them out). You should also help to guide those whom you are in front of, trying to pave a path for their future success. Being at both ends of the spectrum (being the mentee AND the mentor) will keep you motivated, inspired, and still focused on giving back rather than only trying to take from those ahead of you.