Each day you’re either getting better (growing) or you’re getting worse (dying). Equilibrium doesn’t exist. Which are you doing?
Author: cbarney.45
Default: Forgiveness
Train yourself to default to forgiveness. If someone offends you or if they’ve wronged you, have it planned ahead of time that you will forgive them. Rise above your circumstances.
If you hold a grudge, it’s only hurting yourself. Let go. That doesn’t mean that you should forget what happened. But you should use what you learned from that experience and move forward. You may trust someone less, but holding hate in your heart will slowly destroy you.
Searching for peace? Then do this!
If you want peace and tranquillity, focus on saying “no” to more things and doing less. Be selective with what you give your time, energy, and money to. Focus on what’s essential. Ask yourself: what makes the most positive impact on your life from a mental, social/relational, spiritual, financial, and physical standpoint? How can you keep doing those things (or if you’re not doing enough of those, how can you do it more often)?
On the flip side, what are the biggest/most negative stressors in your life? What are things that need to be done, but maybe not by you or not right now? How can you eliminate or minimize those?
Lastly, stop feeling like you’re obligated to say yes to everything. If it excites you and is good for you, say yes! If it needs to be done by you, even if it doesn’t excite you, say yes. But if it doesn’t, you can just as easily decide to say no if that’s what you really want to do.
Being true to yourself
Be true to yourself. Nowadays, people want to become famous just to be famous. It’s not because they’re necessarily striving to be great at anything or known for being excellent at their craft. They sell out – doing or saying things that don’t align with who they really are just to try to get more likes or to make a viral video.
If you are only putting out the content because you want to get as many likes as possible you need to take a look in the mirror. Why are you trying to impress people that you’ve never met and likely never will meet? If the work that you’re putting out into the world is not something you’re proud of, why do it? Don’t do things to impress a random person or say the something on social media because you think it will be accepted by the main stream. You should do, say, and create things because they matter to you.
The world is full of individuals. We are all unique and that’s what makes this such a wonderful place. Be the real you. You may offend some people or turn others off, but the people who like your actions? They’ll like the real you. And you’ll be able to form a deeper bond/connection with them than any of the shallow connections of getting a few likes on a post.
The real victim of fear
Don’t let the fear of failing stop you. Or the fear of looking dumb. Or the fear of being outside of your comfort zone…That’s one way to make sure you never reach your goals. By never trying to do something difficult, you are guaranteeing failure. That type of failure may be less noticeable, but deep down you’ll always wonder “what if”…what if you pursued your goals? Would you be more fulfilled, happier, live a richer life with more meaning? You’ll never know if you don’t try.