Your guide to a healthier perspective of life
Lean into motivation. If you’re motivated, inspired, or excited about something, follow that passion! You never know where it will lead. Go down that rabbit hole!
Motivation comes and goes, so when you have it, take advantage of it. It will make your life easier.
Think of motivation as the cherry on top, and dedication and consistency making up the bulk of your success.
We can’t make somebody do you anything. We can try to persuade them or influence them. We can try to use logic and appeal to their emotions. Studies show that people respond most to fear, but there are always the outliers who will respond better to the idea of pleasure.
The bottom line is that it’s not up to us. We don’t have to make someone say something, do some thing, or believe something. The only thing we can focus on is giving advice if they want it, speaking our opinion when the time is right, and hoping that the outcomes turn out the best for that individual.
These two sayings are slightly related, but are coming from opposite ends of the spectrum.
The first is a slightly modified saying from Shakespeare. “Heavy is the head that wears the 👑 ,” refers to the weight of responsibility that one feels being the leader.
This saying can also be interpreted as having so much expected of you when you’re “at the top.” In sports, you can see this at the team level when the opponents bring their “A” game to every matchup of the previous season’s championship winner. The defending champs have to bear the weight that comes with high expectations.
The other quote is from Gary Vaynerchuck. He says that “being underestimated is a gift.” In this case, you don’t have expectations from others placed on you and your responsibilities may be limited. Take advantage of this because you are able to work in the dark. It’s so much easier to exceed expectations and to impress when you are underestimated.
Regardless of where you are in this spectrum (the boss/leader wearing the crown or the new employee starting at the bottom of the totem pole), put on your blinders and go to work. Focus on what you can control and execute that to the best of your ability. If you do the right thing long enough and consistently enough, eventually you can work your way to the top.
1) Be the hardest worker in the room. Get there first, leave there last, and be productive when you’re there. Work when you’re at work.
2) Question everything internally first. If a rule, a way of doing things, or a story doesn’t make sense to you, try to earnestly figure it out and come up with a solution. If you always question an authority figure out loud (and especially if you do it in front of others), it will be viewed as being disrespectful. But if you bring things to their attention when you don’t understand and you do it in private, they can respect that (as long as their ego is in check).
3) Be humble, yet confident. Let your actions and the results speak for you. Keep your head up, put a smile on your face, have good posture/don’t slouch, speak clearly/enunciate, speak loudly but not too loud, look at others in the eyes when you’re talking with them, and keep an open mind to changing/forming new opinions.
4) Don’t engage in gossip unless you are speaking positively about someone else/building them up. Never say something behind someone’s back that you wouldn’t say to their face. If you would say it to their face and it’s a big enough deal to bother you, bring that person aside and talk it out.
5) Stay in your lane, but be aware of what is happening in the lanes around you. Nobody wants someone in another department to butt in and tell them how to do their job. Focus on your tasks and your responsibilities. BUT, have a good understanding of what other departments do, what they do well and what they can improve upon. You don’t need to know how they do what they do, but if you want to rise in the ranks, you should at least know what they do.
It takes a lot of effort and sacrifice to reach the next level of success.
A lot of us take it easy on ourselves. We say, “I did enough for today.” When really, we just did the bare minimum.
If you set ambitious goals, you’re going to have to work a lot harder than you currently are. So the question becomes, are you OK with good enough? Or do you want spectacular? Do you want extraordinary?
If you’re reading this, that means you have access to the Internet. Maybe you’re reading it from a smart phone, a laptop, or a tablet. But relatively speaking, you’ve “made it.” You’re better off than so many other people in the world already in terms of finances. You likely live in a first world country. You likely don’t have any major concerns regarding food, water, or shelter. Life for you as it currently is should be considered “good enough.”
But do you want more, and if so, what are you willing to do for it? So many people want something. They desire it, but only if it falls into their lap. They want it to happen, but they aren’t willing to do what it takes to get what they want.
Only you can decide how badly you want something. If you want it bad enough, you can make it happen. You can set time aside to work towards it. Sometimes that will mean waking up early or staying up late, sometimes that will mean refraining from buying something, sometimes that will mean reading instead of watching tv, but almost always, there will be a sacrifice that needs to be made if you don’t want to coast through life for “good enough.” Now it’s just a matter of reminding yourself how important your goal is and determining if the sacrifice is still worth it.