Don’t be afraid of losing. Just don’t enjoy it. If you hate losing, you’ll find a way to win. But if you’re afraid of losing, you won’t even try. That’s one of the key differences between success and failure – the ability to keep trying no matter what.
Author: cbarney.45
Everything is difficult. Choose your path.
Everything in life is difficult in its own way.
If you’re broke and hate your job, that’s difficult. But it’s also difficult to be successful professionally. It will take a lot of hard work, long hours, and sacrifices to get what you want. And along the way, you have to choose how hard you want to work at the other areas of your life.
If you put all of your energy into your work, but no energy into eating right or working out, your health will suffer.
If you don’t pay attention to your dating life, family time, or hanging out with friends, your relationships will suffer.
Sure, it’s easier to be mediocre at everything or to “not care” and be bad at certain things, but those choices bring different kinds of hardship with them.
You get to choose your actions. And by doing that, you get to choose which difficulties you’re going to experience. Choose wisely.
Courage over comfort
Choose courage over comfort. Just be aware that, as Brene Brown points out in her book Dare to Lead, ”if you choose courage, you will absolutely know failure, disappointment, setback, even heartbreak.”
Courage is tough. It is not for the faint of heart. But, in the long run, the more you choose to be courageous and stay true to yourself, the less regrets you’ll have in life.
Being a perfectionist…
Don’t aim for perfection. To claim that you’re a perfectionist…it’s not funny, it’s not cute, it’s not admirable. Being a perfectionist STOPS you from achieving because nothing will ever be perfect. That’s why there’s a common phrase, “DONE is better than perfect.” Otherwise you’ll keep waiting for perfect and never get anything done…
If you really want to move forward and achieve your goals more quickly, you will do something to the best of your ability and submit it. After getting feedback of what worked and what didn’t, you’ll modify your actions – tweaking what did work to slightly improve it, and eliminating or changing what didn’t work. You’ll get those results back and continue the process.
The goal should be not to “never fail,” but instead to fail quickly. The word “fail” here is not meant to be permanent. If you fail and then never try anything again, then, yes, it’s a failure. But if you fail and use that information to get better/move you closer to your goals, it was actually a success.
Common reasons why goals aren’t achieved
Why goals aren’t achieved?
1. Not enough focused time spent in action.
2. Give up after it doesn’t work once (instead of staying consistent and persistent).
3. Lacking discipline to do what is necessary.
4. Being easily discouraged after setbacks or slower progress than expected.