Courage/Bravery is better than Safety

Life is not safe.

Yes, it’s much safer today than it has ever been. We have clean water, easy access to food, shelter to keep us from being exposed to the elements, we don’t have to fight off packs of wolves or lions.

Life is safe, but why does it feel so dangerous sometimes? We can feel fear from being ostracized, from failing, from not having “enough”…

But I’m here to argue that we should not strive for maximum safety. Maximum safety would require us to never leave our house, because we might get into a car accident, we’ll be exposed to other people’s germs, what if there is a mass shooting where you’re going? There is a point of diminishing returns. We want safety, of course, but we need to live and have social interactions with others. Instead of wanting maximum safety, I’d rather optimize my courage or bravery. Because often times to be the safest, you relinquish so much control – so much of your power – to someone else. But if you are courageous and brave, that power is within you to face and overcome that which you fear.

Give 100%

Whatever you’re doing right now, dedicate 100% of your effort towards it. This may be different from day-to-day. Your 100% today will probably not be the same as it was yesterday or what it will be tomorrow. The number is relative. It’s not, are you doing what your friends or co-workers are doing…it’s how much do you have to give?

Don’t stop shy of giving it your all. You may know deep down that your 100% today is maybe only 80% of your potential, but as long as you give it everything you’ve got, there’s nothing else that can be said or done.

What you focus on grows

When you focus on the positive, you’ll see (and get) more positivity in your life. When you focus on the negative, you’ll find more negativity in your life. It’s really that simple.

This is why starting and ending your day with a prayer, thinking about what you’re grateful for, stopping and taking a moment of silence, etc is so helpful. These things can help you be intentional and focus on how great your life really is.

There will always be bumps in the road. Life is not always going to be easy. But at any given time, there will be something you can be grateful for…

So focus on the positive. Actively seek it out. Surround yourself with other positive people, read positive/inspiring quotes and books, listen to positive podcasts or books, and stop watching the news (which mostly conveys negative information). What you focus on will grow and you’ll tend to find more of that thing.

Do you live by a code?

What is your default life code? If you could have a list to share with your children about how you want them to act, or how you should be acting for them to see, what would it be? Some of the things I want my kids to see from me are the following…

Always try your best, but have fun doing it.

Be respectful and kind.

Be humble in winning and in defeat. Act like you’ve been there before.

Hold yourself to high standards, but don’t judge others if they don’t do the same.

Hope for the best, but plan for the worst.

Be optimistic, but realistic.

Don’t worry, be happy. Life is good.

A man who chases two rabbits catches neither

A man who chases two rabbits catches neither​
A man who chases two rabbits catches neither.

Focus on finishing one task before moving on to the next one.

In today’s ADHD world, it’s easy to get distracted by new ideas or to think you can multitask effectively, but the truth is if you are constantly chasing after two dissimilar goals, you’re unlikely to accomplish either of them.