mindset | The Caleb Barney Collection

Fighting back when necessary

Do not hit unless you absolutely have to. But when you do, hit hard. You should never go looking for a fight, but if someone backs you into a corner or if you have to defend yourself or others, do it. And don’t hold back, because of you only gently attack them, chances are you’ll only make them more upset/come after you harder. You only have one chance to surprise them. Make it count.

If you don’t ever defend yourself, or you never stand up to that bully, they will continue to bully you. But worse than that is the lack of self-respect and self-confidence you will develop. If you do stand up and fight, you might get beat up/lose. But the harder you fight, the less likely it is that the bully will continue to pick on you. They will want to go after easier prey. (Stand up for them too.)

Think bigger. Are your goals not challenging enough?

People get into the best shape of their lives every single year. Some people go on a journey and lose over 100 pounds. Other people make vast improvements in their financial standing or well-being. Why not you? What’s holding you back?

Ask yourself, are you setting realistic goals? Or are you setting easy goals that you know you can hit? Your goals should be ambitious. They should be a little scary. If they’re not, they are not challenging enough and you probably set your sights too small.

Look at your goals today. They might be the right goals, but on the wrong timeline. Instead of taking 12 months to do it (where 11 months are wasted of not working towards it at all), can you complete it in 3 months?

Teamwork makes the dream work

“If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” – African proverb

You can only go so far, or accomplish so much, on your own. It takes teamwork to achieve something great.

Teams (especially large teams with many decision-makers) can take a long time to decide and act on something. It is easier to move quickly when your team is small or you’re by yourself. But you will be limited by your time, energy, and mental capabilities if you only work alone. If you work with a team, with each team member having their own strengths and bringing something valuable to the team, you can achieve something larger than any one person.

Risk-taking to stand out

You must be willing to take risks in order to achieve something extraordinary. Even if it is the risk of failing, of putting yourself out there, of not being accepted or of people mocking your views, if you don’t risk showing your unique self, you will never stand out.

Don’t try to “blend in.” You’re unique. You have unique thoughts, abilities, and mannerisms. Embrace your uniqueness. Follow your interests. And don’t be afraid to show your true self, or else you risk disappearing into the crowd, not standing out from anyone because you don’t stand for anything.

Realize that not falling in line and doing what everyone else says/does may make some people feel uncomfortable. Some people will dislike you for your ideas, others will be envious of your success. But if you stay true to who you are and what your values are, you can go to sleep easy at night, all while achieving great things.

Taking risks is necessary to grow and succeed.

Realistically optimistic

Make the best of any situation. That doesn’t mean that you have to view every situation as a positive one. But it does mean that you should not dwell on the negative or on what you cannot change…

You CAN be an optimist and a realist at the same time. They do not have to be mutually exclusive. Being realistic is very important. But a lot of people don’t realize what they’re actually capable of and they view things as being “unrealistic” or out of reach when really they just haven’t found the right way to get what they want yet.

Figure out a way how to make a bad situation better. Do not be easily overcome when things don’t go your way. Stop saying, “I can’t do it.” Instead, ask, “How can I do it?”