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“Don’t let your happiness depend on something you may lose.” – C.S. Lewis

You can lose your money, your job, your notoriety, but if you treat people right, you can’t lose your character. That can’t be taken away from anyone except you and the decisions you make.

Your character is more important than what your job title is or how much you make. Does it matter how much money you accumulate or if you become famous? You can’t take the money with you when you die and if you’re searching for glory through fame, you’ll find it’s an ongoing battle. If you stop for even a little bit, someone else will do something that goes viral and you’ll be out of the limelight again.

Don’t wrap up your identity in your material successes – how much “stuff” you have, the size of your home, the money that you’ve earned and accumulated, etc. What really matters is your character – who you truly are and your ability to treat yourself and others the right way. Focus on that and you’ll be alright.

Keep things in perspective. Was today really “the worst day ever!”? Don’t dramatize your situation. People see it on tv and have a natural tendency to mimic it. But really, life is good. Even if you do have a bad day by your standards, forgive yourself, forgive others, and find a way to make tomorrow better.

Chances are, whatever you did/didn’t do today is not a life or death situation. You didn’t ruin someone’s life. Every day and every situation do not need to be turned up to a level 10 on the drama scale. Keep calm and move on.

“The best proof of love is trust.” – Joyce Brothers

When you love someone, and you know they love you, you trust them implicitly. You know after years of being with them that they would never do something to knowingly cause you pain unless they either thought it was best for you both in the long run or they had no other options. If you break that trust, it will be extremely difficult to ever earn it back. Whatever you do, don’t break the trust.

“Honest disagreement is often a good sign of progress.” – Mahatma Gandhi

There’s nothing wrong with disagreeing with someone. In fact, it’s often crucial that you do. if you are always agreeable, you won’t step on anyone’s toes, but you will be doing a disservice to whomever you’re talking with by not telling them how you feel.

When you do disagree with someone, make sure to be kind and respectful – no name calling, don’t raise your voice or try to intimidate the other person, and stick with objective facts as much as possible.

Don’t be afraid to let them how something makes you feel or if you think there might be negative consequences to their actions. You can play devil’s advocate, but know when to stop, otherwise you run the risk of always seeming to be a “Debbie Downer.”

At the end of each day and each week, rake a moment to reflect upon what went well and what can be improved.

How can you experience more of what went well? What preparation led to that outcome? Remember to focus on your actions leading up to the results, as that is what you can control, not the results themselves.

How can you decrease the amount of bad experiences you encounter throughout the day/week/month? Where are you encountering friction? When do you feel stressed? Can you put processes in place to eliminate, or at least to minimize, these feelings?

Work to solve the root cause of the issue(s), not the symptoms.