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Our ego is constantly getting in our way. If someone blames us for something, the first thing most of us do is defend ourselves (shielding our ego from being hurt). It’s a natural instinct, but it’s also wrong.

In his book, “Extreme Ownership,” former Navy Seal Jocko Willink talks about how we all need to take ownership of everything that happens in our lives. If we don’t like the result of what happened, it is up to us to make the necessary changes to ensure that it doesn’t happen again.

The best leaders take responsibility for that which has gone wrong, but hand out praise when things go right. A lot of times, we see the opposite happening. When things go well, the leader loves taking credit for the team’s success, but when things go poorly, they have no problem pointing blame elsewhere. Or sometimes the leader says they are taking responsibility for a negative result, but their actions or the manner in which they say they’re taking responsibility shows otherwise. We see right through their hollow words and learn that we can’t trust what they say.

Next time an issue arises at work or at home, try taking ownership of it. This will be difficult at first, but try it out. Do this consistently for a month and see how it goes. Chances are, you’ll end up earning more respect from your peers or spouse, and with that, they will want to work harder with you to achieve the team’s desired outcome in the future. If you only point out the faults of others, not only will they not like you, they won’t respect you or work hard for/with you. Earn their trust, their love, and their respect and you’ll go much further as a team. Do this by taking ownership and watch your relationships grow.

Discipline begets discipline. If you are disciplined in one area of your life, you are more likely to be disciplined in other areas as well. It is those who lack discipline who don’t reach their goals.

Goals, when properly set, require discipline and perseverance to achieve them. Are you consistently taking the right actions to reach your goals?

Always choose to forgive even if you don’t forget. Why would you choose to stay angry when you can move on? A weight will be lifted off of your shoulders if you choose forgiveness.

“What we really are matters more than what others think is us.” – Jawaharlal Nehru

Know who you are, what you stand for, and act in accordance with your beliefs – that is all that matters. It doesn’t matter what someone else thinks of you. Don’t do things for other’s approval or for “likes” on your social media accounts.

Always try your best and stay true to your values. Do what’s right because it is right. If others see it and like it, great. But don’t change your actions to try to please or appease others.

“My great concern is not whether you have failed, but whether you are content with your failure.” – Abraham Lincoln

Everyone fails at some point. If you don’t think you’ve failed it could mean that you’re either delusional or that you’re too stuck in your comfort zone.

If you try new things and want to stretch the limits, failure is inevitable. But failure isn’t bad. It can be one of the best ways to learn how to improve, by noticing what it is that you’re deficient or lacking.

Instead of trying not to fail, realize that it plays a key role in your overall success. But don’t be content with failing for failing’s sake. If you’re failing, the purpose is to learn from those mistakes and to make adjustments to improve your results. By reframing how you view failure, you can put a positive spin on it. Now, anytime you fail at something, you can see it as bringing you one step closer to success.