Don’t confuse needs with wants. You have actual needs- food, shelter, transportation to/from work, utilities, etc. But within each of those categories, there are varying levels of desirables.
For example, just because you need food, it doesn’t mean you have to eat a gourmet meal or go out to eat every night.
You need a place to live, but that doesn’t mean you should rent a place with state-of-the-art amenities or buy the most expensive house that you’ve been pre-approved for.
Transportation is necessary to get you to work, but as long as it runs, an older car will accomplish the job – you don’t have to buy the newest model luxury vehicle.
We all have necessities, but if you’re in debt, don’t convince yourself that your needs are more than they actually are. When you’re in debt, you don’t get to treat yourself with luxuries. Instead, the best treatment for you is to live below your means to get out of debt, build an emergency fund, then only pay for what you afford. Eventually you’ll be able to purchase higher quality possessions. But understand that when you own something more desirable or valuable, it doesn’t mean that it will bring you happiness. If you only value possessions (instead of health and relationships), those possessions will end up owning you.