Don’t try to change others. Don’t try to control their actions or reactions. You can’t do it, only they can and they will only choose to change when they are ready.
If you focus your energy on changing others you will frustrate yourself and you’ll frustrate them. Basically, you’ll be wasting your time while eroding the relationship.
Instead, focus on how you respond to others. Focus on what you can control – yourself – and learn to let the rest go.