I think that everyone can deal with bouts of sadness or depression. Life has its ups and downs, both of which are meant to be shared with others.
A problem shared is a problem divided. Happiness shared is happiness multiplied…This is why it is so essential to have a support group around you – people that you can tell anything, people that won’t gossip, people who have your back. Whether you have a significant other, a best friend, a group of close friends, or anyone else, make sure that you are able to have open, honest conversations.
I realized this after my dad died. It was a terrible situation, but it could have been so much worse. I was lucky to be surrounded by such amazing people. My wife. My mom and sister. My friends. My co-workers. I’ve been so blessed and I never want to take that for granted.
Dealing with hardship builds your tolerance to the BS of everyday life. People’s favorite activity these days is complaining. But dealing with death puts life into perspective. You realize that the problem that you’re facing today probably won’t matter a year from now, let alone in ten years. When you encounter true hardship, it thickens your skin a little bit. It’s better face the trivial day-to-day stuff head on, to face the “little things” now, so that when true bad news does come (and eventually, it does for everyone), it might stiffen your resolve some.
We need to realize that every day isn’t going to be perfect. Hopefully you have more good days than bad, but your mindset and how you approach life can have a major impact on how you view each day. Try to look for the positive in any situation, and it will minimize your bad days. If you are feeling really depressed, make sure you reach out to someone and let them know how you’re feeling. Remember a problem shared is a problem divided. If you feel you don’t have anyone to turn to, call a hotline (I Googled this option here – https://www.crisistextline.org/depression).
Finally, remember, life is more than your current situation. Whatever you’re feeling is just that – a feeling. You have control over your thoughts. Think positive, self-affirming thoughts and remember that life is good.