Habits can be good or they can be bad. Are you using them to improve yourself? Or are you gradually (or rapidly) on the decline? The truth is, we become what our habits are. They mold us into who we will become. This is why we need to be mindful of what habits we already have and which ones we would like to develop.
So how do we know what habits to develop? And how do we go about making them “stick?”
First, separate your life into categories and ask yourself what goals you have in each of those categories. Without having a goal in mind, we lack direction. We need to know what we want to accomplish before we can decide what habits to create/grow.
After you have a goal for each category, reverse engineer what stepping stones/milestones you will need to hit to achieve those goals. Now, we have our large, overarching goal AND, just as important, several small goals to help us get there.
The next step would be to do a little research. Figure out if anyone has already achieved the goal we’ve set for ourselves (why recreate the wheel if we don’t have to?). If so, is there a way you can connect with them to see what they have done to achieve success in their field? Is there a book or interview where they’ve shared their best practices? Is there a way you can talk with them in person or on the phone? If they are gracious enough to give you time/help you out, conduct your research beforehand so you are not asking about something they’ve already answered. When talking with them, can you figure out what daily habits they have and do you feel that those habits may have contributed to their success? Is this something you could emulate (answer: yes)?
After you’ve thought about what your goals are and researched how to get there, you need to implement what you’ve learned. But it will work best if reframe it in a way that motivates you (be excited!). For example, you need to start small – probably smaller than you think. The point of starting small is to make it so easy that you won’t procrastinate the process of starting.
Lastly, in addition to starting small, you should tie your new habit to something that you’re already doing. James Clear calls this “habit stacking.” If you already have one habit in place, and you can add a related habit to it, it will be much easier to maintain, as you already have a cue that reminds you to perform the new habit.
So, what are you waiting for? Our habits today shape our results tomorrow. We must always be wondering if the actions we’re taking will be to our future benefit or future detriment (to our relationships, our happiness, our health, or our bank accounts).