“Rules without relationships lead to rebellion.” – Andy Stanley
Imagine trying to impose rules on someone that you just met. It isn’t going to work. They’re going to respond poorly. They don’t know you, or know if you have their best interests at heart.
This is the same thing when it comes to being a manager at work or a parent at home. If you’re an absent parent, then decide that when you come home you’re going to implement new rules or be a tyrannical dictator when talking with your children, they won’t respect you.
Build your relational foundation with respect. If you treat them with respect, they will respect you. If you don’t treat them respect, don’t allow them to feel heard, and shut down every idea that they offer without hesitation, they will look forward to the day that they can leave.
“Train people well enough so they can leave, treat them well enough so they don’t want to.” – Richard Branson