Your guide to a healthier perspective of life
Why goals aren’t achieved?
1. Not enough focused time spent in action.
2. Give up after it doesn’t work once (instead of staying consistent and persistent).
3. Lacking discipline to do what is necessary.
4. Being easily discouraged after setbacks or slower progress than expected.
Good leaders (including good parents) should be consistent and predictable with their actions and responses. What kid/employee would want to “walk around on eggshells” everyday, not knowing if their actions are going to make their parent/boss go berserk?
Aim to be consistent in what you say and how you act. Reward the same actions on a day-to-day basis, and punish the same actions on a day-to-day basis. Don’t be so temperamental. Those around you should know, “if I do X, my boss will be pleased with me. But if I do Y, they will not be happy.”
If we set clear expectations from the beginning, and follow through by rewarding/punishing accordingly, everyone will know the rules of the game and understand how they can win.
People get into the best shape of their lives every single year. Some people go on a journey and lose over 100 pounds. Other people make vast improvements in their financial standing or well-being. Why not you? What’s holding you back?
Ask yourself, are you setting realistic goals? Or are you setting easy goals that you know you can hit? Your goals should be ambitious. They should be a little scary. If they’re not, they are not challenging enough and you probably set your sights too small.
Look at your goals today. They might be the right goals, but on the wrong timeline. Instead of taking 12 months to do it (where 11 months are wasted of not working towards it at all), can you complete it in 3 months?
You can do anything you set your mind to. If you put enough focused time, energy, and (possibly) money into accomplishing a goal, it will get done.
The reason why many people don’t achieve their goals is because they aren’t willing to make the necessary sacrifices of time, energy, or money to achieve it. Or maybe they’re afraid of looking dumb or failing so they aren’t willing to put everything on the line. Maybe they don’t know where to get started, so even though they want something, they are putting their time, energy, and money into the wrong places.
Get a mentor and peers – someone who has done it before (what did they do to get started. Take the principles and apply them to today), who is still doing it (keeping up with what is relevant and working right now), and who is at a similar position (but in a different region so you are not in direct competition with them).
Be decisive. Once you have enough information, act on it. Don’t be an over consumer of information and fail to produce anything.
Be confident. Speak clearly, succinctly, and as an authoritative figure. If people come to you with questions and you want to be viewed as the expert, do these things. Otherwise they will second-guess you.
Simplify to clarify.
If you can answer a question completely in 7 words, don’t use 8. If you can use the most simple language that even a child can understand, don’t use fancy words to possibly confuse others. If you do so, you’re doing so out of your own ego. You’re signaling to others “how smart you are.” Because if you were truly smart, you would not feel the need to prove it to others. Instead, your main focus would be to pass along information as clearly and concisely as possible, so that everyone listening understands and can put it into practice.