Courage to look within

Have the courage to face your weaknesses. Where are you lagging behind? What faults do you have? What mistakes do you repeatedly make? How can you improve in these areas?

Have the courage to admit you were wrong. It will be hard to look in the mirror instead of pointing out the faults of others. Or to admit your mistakes without caveats or giving excuses…just own them. Don’t say, “I only did this because…” or “I wouldn’t have done that if you didn’t do this.” That’s not admitting your mistake, not really.

Focus on your actions and how you can improve the situation, not on what you did right and what the other person did wrong. Don’t go in with the idea of having an “unwritten and unspoken agreement” (something in your head only) that when you apologize for X, the other will/should apologize for Y. That’s not how it works. Be sorry when you’re sorry. If you only use the words but don’t actually mean it, others will eventually see through it.

Personal responsibility

“Doctors won’t make you healthy. Nutritionists won’t make you slim. Teachers won’t make you smart. Gurus won’t make you calm. Mentors won’t make you rich. Trainers won’t make you fit. Ultimately, you have to take responsibility. Save yourself.” – Naval Ravikandt

We are responsible for how our lives turn out. It’s easy to blame someone else when things go wrong. It’s also easy to think that someone else can “save” us from our own problems. But we need to be the hero of our own stories. Someone can help us, they can be our “guide,” but we must choose to be the hero.

Being the hero doesn’t mean that nothing bad will happen to us, but if we keep pushing past the obstacles, we can overcome them. It’s up to you to make a choice every day. Are you going to wait for someone to come and save you? Or will you do what needs to be done to save yourself? If you want to live your best life, you must take ownership of it.

Thoughts on finance, student loans, and taking ownership of your life

“Even today, what to study and how to study it are more important than where to study it and for how long. The best teachers are on the Internet. The best books are on the Internet. The best peers are on the Internet. The tools for learning are abundant. It’s the desire to learn that’s scarce.” – Naval Ravikandt

That’s the sad part about the student loan crises that we have going on right now. People are going into major debt (a debt that is not even forgiven if you declare bankruptcy) for an obsolete product. Many adults, including myself, graduated from school and do not get paid to do whatever they received their degree in. I feel fortunate to have had some help along the way and be out of debt (I received a small amount of scholarship money – for working hard and applying, $10,000 was given to me to use for school, my aunt and parents would help with groceries when they could, and I worked between 25-30 hours per week the last three years of school. I also worked about 15-20 hours per week during my freshman year when the university recommended NOT to work at all that first year. Finally, I worked 40+ hours per week every summer and after graduating school, I worked about 65 hours per week with three jobs for the first six months to pay off any remaining debt). But many people choose not to work when they’re at school. Or they choose a school for prestige and do not care about the cost. If that’s the case, they have to accept responsibility for their debts. Yes, our country has a problem that we need to fix regarding the cost of schooling. But it does not owe anything to us. And if we can’t change what Congress is doing (if they’re not going to help), then we shouldn’t just throw up our hands and say “well, that’s just the way it is. Everyone has student loans, car loans, a mortgage on their home, and credit card debt. I guess I will too.” No. You should do what you can to avoid that. Apply for scholarships every day. Work your butt off. Go to a community college first then transfer to the in-state university/college of your choice that you can afford. Of course, you will be working the whole time and saving more than you earn. When it’s time to buy a house, don’t listen to the loan officer and get the most expensive house “you can afford.” You’ll be house-poor and end up taking an eternity to pay off your mortgage. Don’t burn through cash and live paycheck-to-paycheck. Trust me, you will be much happier when you’re not worried about bouncing a check or how you can afford your next meal.