Taking the bitter with the sweet

So much of life is outside of our control – much of which is bitter. We set out to do something and we are quickly beset by challenges, by loss, by other people’s tendency to think about themselves over other people’s needs. Yet we continue on…not just because we have to (or ought to), but because we know what’s on the other side is wonderful: friendships, success, excellence, life-changing experiences.

If today ends up being another day where there is more bitter than sweet for you, try to remember what Theodore Roosevelt said. Say to yourself, “I am taking the bitter to get to the sweet.” Say, “It all balances out and I am lucky to have both when so many have neither.” In this way you will not only grow stronger and more able to endure any misfortune that comes your way, but you will also be more grateful for and appreciative of the gifts you are given as well.

On courage, fear, and taking action

Courage is not never being afraid. Courage is having fear and acting anyways.

We are all fearful of something – being criticized, looking dumb, losing a loved one, losing our health, losing our status/reputation, losing our job/career/income, etc. But the only way to live life is to hear your fears, but to keep pushing forward.

Don’t let your fears stop you from taking action. Use them to motivate you to make your life better.

A few thoughts on parenting interactions with kids

Show them unconditional love. Tell them that you are always proud of them. They shouldn’t need to get good grades to earn your love.

Let them be curious. If they’re into something, make that thing seem important to you too. If they ask questions, no matter how silly they are or how many there are, encourage them to ask more. At the very least, don’t get annoyed when answering them.

Teach them that it’s ok when things don’t go their way.

Teach them that honesty is key, but if they can convey their honest opinion in a nice/respectful way, always opt to do it in that manner.

Be supportive, but not overbearing. Let them fail, but step in before it’s catastrophic.