Tag: positivity

You get to do this…

You don’t “have to” do anything…you “get to” do those things. Some people would love to be in your position where you feel like you “have” to do something. Your “curse” might be another person’s blessing.

When you have to go to work to pay the bills…

At least you have a job, which is more than the unemployed can say…

At least you’re able to work…

At least you’re able to provide value and be compensated for it…

At least you have the physical and mental capacity to be able to complete the task in front of you.

At least you can feel like you’ve accomplished something…

It’s ok to not always be happy. But if you’re unhappy for too many days in a row, you need to make an adjustment. Is it your attitude that you need to change or your circumstances? Either might be the correct answer (or both), but instead of just being angry or sad, make a change to feel better. And don’t forget that no matter what you’re going through, other people somewhere have it worse than you.

How to deal with our own problems

There are legitimate hurdles and hardships we have to overcome on a daily, weekly, and yearly basis. But most of the hurdles we face in life are not unique to ourselves.

That problem with getting good grades? Or the person who has been bullying you? Something happened to you at work? Or your home life isn’t quite what you want it to be?

You are unique, but the problems you’re facing have been encountered (and overcome) by others.

The issue is when we pity ourselves. Then, it’s not just the obstacle we’re facing anymore. We’ve also added a self-imposed obstacle – our mindset. If we think we can’t do something, that we’re the victim in a situation, or that to overcome the original obstacle will be difficult, it will be!

Instead of focusing on the problem, focus on solutions! Instead of focusing on the negative, focus on the positive. Have faith that you will prevail, try to find answers, and start taking action. Don’t feel bad for yourself and realize that plenty of other people have been in a similar situation as you and they’ve been able to survive/thrive. You can too!

Project your attitude

When you greet someone, say “hello” cheerfully and smile. Look them in the eyes. Have a firm handshake. Stand up straight. Keep your head up and your shoulders pulled back. Project confidence. Project happiness.

People want to work with and be around people who are magnetic. The list above is something that can help you be magnetic, even if you don’t feel like you are. Nobody wants to be around a negative/pessimistic person with low confidence.

The other thing you want to do is try to make others feel better. If they feel great every time they leave a conversation with you, they’ll want to continue to have more conversations with you. Be uplifting, but don’t be a pushover. Be agreeable, but not too agreeable. Don’t be afraid to speak your mind/tell the truth, but do it in a constructive way. Have a positive attitude and they’ll know that any criticism is coming from a good place (you trying to help).

10 tips for a happy life

To live a happy life, you need to do the following things:

1) Live in alignment with your values…if you do something that morally doesn’t sit well with you, it will haunt you. What do you value?

2) Only worry about what you can control. You can control your effort and behavior. You can control your thoughts and actions. You CAN’T control what other people think, say, or do. If you feel compelled, try to help them make what you deem “better decisions.” But realize you only can control yourself, no one else.

3) Understand that this moment is only temporary. Whether you’re expert the best or the worst day of your life, it’s temporary. Treasure the great days. Enjoy the time with your friends, your family, and even yourself. When something bad happens, understand that this is only a page (or a chapter) in your book. Tomorrow is a new day.

4) See the positive in any situation. Even when bad things happen, spin it around – how can you learn/grow from this?

5) Develop am attitude of gratitude. What you focus on grows. Focus on being positive and on seeing the positive, and your life will become more positive.

6) Don’t take life (or yourself) too seriously. Life is meant to be enjoyed. Often, we place too much emphasis on what is happening right now. “What if I don’t get an ‘A’?” “What if ‘X, Y, or Z’ does/doesn’t happen?” In the end, you’ll realize that cumulatively, yes, it all adds up, but individually it really doesn’t matter. Will you be on your deathbed and regret not getting a better grade in 8th grade math?

7) Smile and laugh everyday. Do it as often as you can. It will make you feel better.

8) Be healthy. A healthy body and a healthy mind will help keep your mindset positive.

9) Surround yourself with others who are generally, and genuinely, happy. You are the average of the five people with who me you spend the most time.

10) Be yourself. Do what you feel is right. Don’t try to “keep up with the Joneses” or impress other people…other people will come and go. But you have to live with yourself until your dying days. Be you. Love you. And don’t care about what other people think.

Taking the bitter with the sweet

So much of life is outside of our control – much of which is bitter. We set out to do something and we are quickly beset by challenges, by loss, by other people’s tendency to think about themselves over other people’s needs. Yet we continue on…not just because we have to (or ought to), but because we know what’s on the other side is wonderful: friendships, success, excellence, life-changing experiences.

If today ends up being another day where there is more bitter than sweet for you, try to remember what Theodore Roosevelt said. Say to yourself, “I am taking the bitter to get to the sweet.” Say, “It all balances out and I am lucky to have both when so many have neither.” In this way you will not only grow stronger and more able to endure any misfortune that comes your way, but you will also be more grateful for and appreciative of the gifts you are given as well.