Avoid having a victim mindset at all costs. That’s not to say that you haven’t been wronged, or that you are not the victim of bullying, harassment, or unfairness. But staying in that mindset does you no good. Don’t wallow in self-pity. What’s done is done and now you need to figure out a way to not be victimized again and how to thrive in life.
Tag: self-improvement
Why reading 5 pages per day will change your life
5 pages per day x 365 days per year = 1,825 pages per year.
If a book averages 300 pages (which seems high), you would finish 6+ books per year.
What you read daily changes the way you think. If you can change your thoughts, you can change your life.
We all need constant, little reminders of how we should be acting. By going too long without thinking about something (leadership, business, marketing, sales, relationships, finance, etc), we often forget what we should be applying in everyday circumstances.
Five things to always work on for self-improvement
Things to always work on…
1) Do not get defensive. If someone is critical of you, listen to them. There is probably at least a grain of truth that you are blind to.
2) Do not make excuses. If something didn’t go your way or there was an accident, sincerely apologize. Don’t diminish your apology by then giving an excuse for why it wasn’t your fault. Some things will always be outside of your control, so focus only on what you can influence.
3) Eliminate can’t from your vocabulary. Sure, there are some things we literally can’t do (I can’t teleport, read minds, or fly). But, for the most part, when we say we “can’t” do something, it’s because we’re not willing to make the necessary sacrifices to do that thing. It’s more like we won’t do that or we haven’t prioritized that.
4) Be nicer. Treat others how they would like to be treated. Find ways to help others get what they want.
5) Do not avoid difficult situations/conversations. Life is full of tough decisions. The best way to live without regret is to have the courage to face your fears. Always act in alignment with your core values.
Common reasons why goals aren’t achieved
Why goals aren’t achieved?
1. Not enough focused time spent in action.
2. Give up after it doesn’t work once (instead of staying consistent and persistent).
3. Lacking discipline to do what is necessary.
4. Being easily discouraged after setbacks or slower progress than expected.
Four keys to success (inspired by a recent BiggerPockets podcast episode)
1. Decisiveness – clearly define what it is you want. Then ask yourself, will whatever action you’re about to take bring you closer to that goal? If yes, do it. If no, don’t do it. Not sure? Give yourself a set period to decide then take action.
2. Build momentum. Does an airplane start the engine then it’s up in the air flying? No. It has to build up speed to take flight. Once in the air, it’s easy to maintain. Determine what is the most important next action step, then do it (preferably, it should be easy to implement so you can “check it off the list” and build momentum). When you do that, figure out the most important next step and do that. Repeat, repeat, repeat.
3. Measure what matters. Keep track of the most important numbers. What are the lead measures and lag measures you need to hit to achieve your goals? Budget your time, actions, money, etc.
4. Become an expert. What did I do yesterday? How could I have done it better? What did I do that I should stop doing? What do I need to learn to be considered an “expert” in my field.