Why is it that you’re really upset?

If you get upset with somebody’s words, pause and reflect as to why those words are affecting you this way. Is it because there is a hint of truth to them? Or is it because there is no truth at all to them and you feel that it is disrespectful or slanderous towards you?

There can be a fine line between disrespect and tough love. Is that person telling you something you need to be told, even though it’s not how you want to be told? Sometimes, that’s the only way to get through to you… That’s the only way you’ll actually listen. If somebody is too nice or makes it a little too easy and comfortable for you to hear, it never sinks in. It’s a lot easier to brush off. But if somebody tells you a hard truth and you don’t like it, or if they do it in a way that you don’t like, it’s going to get your attention. Sometimes, that’s what is needed. Don’t get mad and stew on it. Try to understand why they said it. If it’s true, do something about it. If you feel it’s inaccurate, talk with the other person and see where they’re coming from.